The Non-invited Family

We found out last night that our nephew, who also is our Godson, made his First Holy Communion yesterday. DH’s parents and his grandmother were invited. For some reason, they kept it all a big secret and didn’t even mention it to us. One of DH’s other sister, Samantha, is pretty upset about the whole thing. I’m not sure exactly how I feel about it, but I am hurt that we were not at least informed. We would have loved to have been there and would have been more than happy to pay for our own family’s meal afterwards. I am torn whether or not I should get our nephew a present. I likely will get him something of a religious nature. After all, it is not his fault that we were not invited.

This whole thing reminds me of my friend who also has a lot of kids. (Six to be exact, but one of them is 18 and doesn’t live with them.) Her DH’s sister and their family often exclude my friend’s family from their family events. She told me about one time that her SIL told her they were not having a party for her nephew’s birthday. When my friend and her kids brought over her nephew’s birthday present, she noticed a birthday party invitation there. So, her SIL had lied to her and they really were having a party for her nephew, but they just were not inviting her family.

Is it okay to descriminate against certain families because they have a lot of kids? Even if those families are a part of your extended family? It certainly doesn’t seem like the right thing to do, especially if you are related to these people. It is not like I don’t understand the finacial aspects of why they would not invite us, I do. But I’ll leave it up to them to try and explain to their nieces and nephews why they did not want them there.